She will stand up for herself and her kids and let you know what is acceptable or not.Women who have grown weaker from the experience will have lower self-confidence, trust issues, and a hard time having a normal relationship.
Therefore, get to know the mother and her beliefs around discipline before you get too serious.
If you love the idea of adopting an instant family, then dating a single mom may seem like the perfect solution.
Kids are often resistant to seeing the new man in their mother’s life as part of the family, and they can often be uncomfortable with certain types of affection.
Earning their trust, being a compassionate and kind person, and treating their mother well is going to be a constant requirement in order to create the cohesive family unit that you want.
However, it is important to remember that it may take a while for the whole family thing to happen.
In fact, it may take years for it to happen (or it may never truly happen at all).But I’ve seen a lot of people get into a relationship like this, not know what they should expect, and have it end very badly when issues simply cannot be worked through.In short, if you are on the fence, it’s better to think about the possible negatives (and decide if you are willing to deal with them if they come up) before things get too serious and it becomes extremely hard to leave the relationship.If there is a lot of baggage, you may be taking on a lot more than you want.You can spot a lot of baggage by unhealthy behavior. If you find that there is too much baggage for you to deal with, and you are not willing to have patience as she works through that baggage, then get out before things get to serious. Because she has kid(s), things are not always going to go as planned.Most single moms try to keep the father involved in some manner.