Because of the links between Goth and the 'vampyre' subculture/lifestyle (more coming soon on this), it is often assumed that Goths indulge in blood play (cutting each other or drinking each other's blood during sex). Blood-drinking = not your best idea.) Because of Goth's open-mindedness (yes, that again), there is a general consensus that 'what takes place between consenting adults stays between said adults', but since most Goths (and most vampyres, come to that...) a) do not believe they are vampires, b) do not have any particular affinity for blood (I have a tendency to faint if someone gets a nosebleed in my general vicinity), and c) do not like the idea of or take part in cutting themselves or other people, I would draw the conclusion that this is very unlikely in 99% of cases. Lately, I have also seen many articles on Wiki How with titles such as "How to get a Goth guy to like you (even if you're not Gothic)" and "How to win the heart of a Goth girl". ) that many of these are written tongue-in-cheek or from personal experience, making them about an even mix of amusing and sweet.
However, I would like to point out that 'winning the heart' of your 'dark love' is really not all that different than wooing a 'normal' girl or guy.
Belonging to the subculture does not mean favouring the same sexual preferences - everyone is different.
Many, many Goths are in happy relationships with non-Goths.
I had a six-year relationship with a lovely chap who was definitely not Goth at all. If you wander into a Goth club and start sleazing over and groping random people, you will most likely get kicked out, just as you would in any other club if your behaviour was inappropriate.
Spooky gifts: A gothic necklace (NOT Halloween jewellery, it can be tacky and is likely to fall apart) A heart-shaped box filled with Halloween sweets A bunch of deep red roses A book of dark poetry A mix CD of dark/Goth music A handmade bracelet ..your imagination. Double points if it doubles as an art gallery or bookstore.
One of the best things about dating a goth is that they’re not afraid of what people think – a pretty refreshing quality in this self-conscious day and age. From the way they wear their hair to their choice in clothes, you can’t deny goths are true individuals. You’ll enjoy dating a goth if your politics follow a feminist curve – apparently, it’s the ladies that run the show in the goth world. An ideal date if you’re in need of a nudge in that direction or if you’d like to be able to share and explore your feelings with your partner. Goths are bold and brave – after all, it takes a lot of courage to choose to stand out rather than blend in. We all know doing laundry is a nightmare, so imagine how much easier it would be if everything you needed to wash was the same colour. And black, it must be said, is a very slimming colour choice. If you don’t mind a little rough and tumble goth gigs are seriously fun. You’ll never need to worry about looking tanned…ever again. Whether you’re looking to date a guy or a girl, at least you’ll be able to share eyeliner tips. When you’re hanging out with a group of goths, chances are you’re the cheeriest person in the room! Leather is a real investment piece – so at least your joint fashion purchases will keep their value. They can introduce you to a whole world of new (and old music) from The March Violets to Marilyn Manson. One of the best things about dating a goth is that they’re a genuinely open group of people – perfect if you’d like a partner that can help you find yourself.
This can be for myriad reasons - they may not feel 'understood' by non-subcultural types; they may feel they have little in common with non-Goths; they may enjoy dressing up in dashing black attire and hitting the spooky clubs with their significant other.
But around 80% of Goths (according, that it, to a poll I saw online - perhaps not, therefore, the MOST accurate of statistics, but sounds close enough judging from personal experience, people I've talked to and what I've seen 'in the scene') are not hugely bothered by whether their significant other is Goth or not.
However, it can be nice to give a gentle nod to your beloved's subcultural inclinations - it shows that you're not worried or made uncomfortable by the fact your loved one is Goth and reassures them that they would not be expected to 'change' to have a possible relationship with you.
(Teenage Gothlings often worry they will not be attractive to 'normal' members of the opposite sex - or the same sex, whichever floats your pirate ship - because of their dark attire.
Older Goths feel that they will be expected to 'hurry up and grow out of it'.
Showing that you respect them as they are is likely to earn you many, many brownie points.) So whilst you don't need to impress your loved one by reciting poetry by candlelight, taking her to the funeral home or sending her bunches of dead roses, and you definitely should not change yourself (put down that black hair dye, right now...), some of your gifts or dates could be a little more spooky. A concert - make sure it is a band that you BOTH enjoy. If your town has a small, little-known, out-of-the-way coffee shop (every town seems to have one of these, I think it's a rule), go there.
I'm sure you are perfectly able to tell when someone is not interested in your advances and know how to behave accordingly, i.e. Don't assume that any Goth is easy, and please bear the following statement firmly in mind when visiting a Goth club, concert or festival, no matter how pretty or revealing the clothing: "The Goth is not for touching." I'm pretty sure you will have already learned that what is true for one person may not be true for another. Because of the crossover between the Goth scene and the BDSM scene, many people assume that Goths are up for anything.