It is designed to (1) place the abuser in a position of control; (2) silence the target’s attempts at assertion; (3) avoid conflict resolution/personal responsibility/compromise; or (4) punish the target for a perceived ego slight.
You know how an appliance like that can make a great contribution to our lives, to the point where, when it’s working, we really love it for doing all those things? You know how, when you truly love someone, whether it’s a person, or even a pet, you can get really angry at them, yet despite the anger, you still feel love for them? Unconditional love requires an awareness of a presence beyond appearances.
Healthy unconditional love requires a bonding beyond the surface appearance and behaviour of someone. I don’t know about you, but I don’t exactly grieve when an appliance breaks down and I need to replace it (I might be upset about the cost and effort required for the replacement though).
The 5-year-old refuses to talk with the friend and angrily storms off to play on the jungle gym with someone else.
The bewildered child with the pail and shovel may feel confused, rejected, and may not understand why they can’t share.
The minute the partner disagrees with the narcissistic person or asserts his or her healthy boundaries, the narcissistic person deploys an arsenal of abuse tactics. Play with someone who has the ability to share the shovel and pail. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below.
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For those leaving a toxic relationship with such an individual, many therapists suggest that the survivor understand that the person with narcissism has not developed the ability to express a high level of empathy, reciprocity, and compromise.
The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse that no one deserves nor should tolerate.
The person with narcissism may prefer to end the relationship and start over rather than be in a position of potential abandonment.
The 5-year-old storms off and plays with a new, innocent target on the swing set. So how does one deal with the silent treatment from a person with narcissism?
You know those days when electrical appliances break down, and you entertain the hope that if you just “do the right thing” they will spring back to life?