Its nothing like Atlanta Detroit is full of frustrate DL men, afraid to admitt their real feelings ,because one moust remain "Hard" to make it in the streets. The reason is straight from the source themselves, their wives don't give head any more, and if they do , its a chore to them, SNF they do a lousy job!
Trust I have gay male friends n family n I actually go to the gay clubs here. Speaking from experience and dating black men exclusively for 20 years there are more married black men I see versus single black men!
Now, my reason for not being able to finish the book: it's down-right sickening and disturbing, yet informative.
You can't help but second guess yourself when seeing any black man on the street whether he is alone, with his wife, his friends, his preacher or his boss. The people he talks about being on the DL are prominent people in society-- lawyers, ministers, artists, fathers, husbands, boyfriends, homophobes. Nothing against being gay but the double life and deceit is a bit much to handle. If someone chooses to be down-low, low-down, gay, bi-sexual, or anything else that could cause major issues in a relationship, be an adult and bring it up with the person you say you care about. King wanted the cake, the icing, the glass of milk, and to eat and drink them all.
You can't help but second guess yourself when seeing any black man on the street whether he is alone, with his wife, his friends, his preacher or his boss. That would stop all the pretense and fear of being caught out. I find this book to be full of excuses for a man to play both sides (in this case, his unsuspecting wife and his play-friends).
I've been told by numbers of black men, that my skills are better than they ever had, and they also say that if their widely or girlfriend did them like I do , they wouldn't be seeking relief elsewhere!
Not to mention the remarks they make about how they love the contrast of B on W !
He went on and on about denial when it was glaringly obvious that he, too, was suffering from the same thing, sadly. I need to say that it is an absolute eye-opener, informative, definitely very scary and disgusting.
To think that people value human life so little as to put it at risk so callously is appalling, disgusting and shocking. King told Oprah he wasn't gay back in 2004, he CLAIMS he wasn't lying and CLAIMS he was in denial. King told Oprah he wasn't gay back in 2004, he CLAIMS he wasn't lying and CLAIMS he was in denial.The writing for me - though it was a fast read - felt jumbled and paragraphs and sections seemed to be out of place.So essentially the writing and To say that I did not like this book would be an understatement. For this book I decided to break down how I rated this book based on content, likeability, editing and writing.Me........;-O~........shoot it baby I'm ready to swallow! A bold expose of the controversial secret that has potentially dire consequences in many African American communities Delivering the first frank and thorough investigation of life "on the down low" (the DL), J. King exposes a closeted culture of sex between black men who lead "straight" lives. Atlanta also has a large open gay community , which I have not seen in Detroit, Atlanta also has a large DL population, but I suspect Detroit has a larger one. Making it feel appreciated from a deprived and sexually frustrated home situation!