I quickly passed up these profiles as I assumed that they were looking for that kind of perfection in return and would never be interested in an extensively scarred, nipple-less woman.
We broke up because at 22 years old, two years with the same person feels like a lifetime.
Sometimes I miss that Abe Lincoln lookalike, it’s true. But I have, for the most part, been enjoying the single life.
And it does make for some interesting reading material for the ol’ blog.
So in order to report back to my loyal readers and answer your question “How do you tell someone you’re dating about your mastectomy/implants/BRCA mutation? And I’ve learned some DOs and DON’Ts of dating post-mastectomy.
A bonus would be to have single men reading this be more aware of and sensitive to some of the real issues women may be facing.
After all, one in eight women will be diagnosed with breast cancer (albeit, not all have a mastectomy).
In my head, this is how I imagined the conversation would play out: OK, so he didn’t really run away screaming, but the horrified look on his face made it pretty obvious that I had made a fatal boo boo.
Since I write this blog and I’ve received press coverage for it, I assumed that the guy–being well versed in the ways of the Internet–had already run a Google search of my name and had come across the blog and articles about me. Instead of asking guys if they’ve Google stalked me, I now try another tactic: DO look for ways for your date to indirectly mention it (BRCA mutation, mastectomy, whatever “it” is) without knowing…I call these “topic triggers.” A few weeks after the failed date (which was also my LAST with said guy…hmm, I wonder why?
I thought it would be an easy way to cheat and deal with the subject without having to explain it myself. I still had to explain it all to him–the BRCA mutation, the family history of breast cancer, the mastectomy, the implants–but I had to do it while fighting to convince him that I wasn’t hiding something really bad. ) I went out with another guy, who I had met online.