If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.
When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.
She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.
Whenever Sharon meets someone new, she hopes that "this is the one," and Branden does, too.
Sadly, when Sharon's relationships don't work out, not only is her heart broken, but so is her son's.
When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.
This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.
Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.
Some people hold off until engagement before introducing their significant other to their kids.
(Granted, this can create other complications because you want to know how your children will respond to a potential mate prior to engagement.) Bryan, a single father of three, always meets his dates on neutral ground with his children, such as at a church picnic or at movie theatre with friends.
You can also establish an accountability group made up of those who know and love you.
That way, when you feel tempted, you can call on them for prayer and support.
However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).