The number one example men brought up was talking to women they’re attracted to. The advice is collected from studies in the field of cognitive behavioral science and my own experience.
Meet and fuck over phone no email - Become intimidating
Jordan Belfort, the infamous Wolf of Wall Street, said in his memoir, "I'm insecure and humble, and I embarrass easily... If I had to choose between embarrassment and death, I'd choose death. I really found this to be true on three particular, separate occasions. The third occasion was when I volunteered my number to a cute stranger at a concert in Sydney in 2007.
As a fan, something took over me and I introduced myself to him with little more than a smile, my name and some words of appreciation for his work. Kelsey stood up, asked me about myself, introduced me to his wife and thanked me sincerely from stopping by. She was very warm and chatty and shared her story with me as to how she got started in the culinary business. Most people -- including famous people -- are cool! Sometimes, if you make the first social move and say hello, you might be eradicating two people's nerves. You are giving power to your ego when you worry/overthink. Or as Arianna Huffington calls it, the "obnoxious roommate in your head...
A friend of mine is a prime example of an intimidating person.
She’s pretty, intelligent, confident, has a great education and a high-income job in finance.
After all, you can’t remove feelings and most people get intimidated every once in awhile, so why not be okay with it?
Lesson learned: Whenever you’re around someone who intimidates you, think: “Now I’m intimidated, and that’s OK.” Then you can move forward to face (and conquer) your fears instead of fighting your own feelings. This covers the spectrum from higher ups at work, love interests, people we don't know at parties, popular people from school or the office, even celebrities. Often people we look up to (or those who we just don't know who seem cool) can bring up feelings we harbor about ourselves that we are not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. We are all made from the same source and the truth is -- and this is repeated in many spiritual scriptures "we are all special and we are all not special." We are all equal, my friends. So, yeah, I'm a weak, imperfect person." Even wolves get scared! We are also beautifully different from one another, too -- which means all of us have some unique value and flavor to add to a conversation or social setting. Here are some reasons why other people should not intimidate you: 1. The fear of others is generated within us, not by the person in question. As I’ve gotten to know her better she’s opened up about having a low self-esteem.She feels safer when she can hide behind that perfect surface. An example is a psychopath without insecurities who just wants to intimidate others. Ironically, it’s often those who feel the most need to compensate for their insecurities who come off as the most intimidating. The opportunities are abundant when you stop allowing fear to get the better of you.